Category: Orgasm

Mindful Masturbation: The Art of Self-Pleasuring

Last week I took part in a video project by a female porn film-maker. The intention of the project is to film sexually alive women enjoying “mindful masturbation”.

What this means is masturbation for the sheer pleasure of touching one’s own body. Self-pleasuring can be done almost as a meditation. Not for a goal of climax, nor going into performance for someone else, but natural self-loving.

Swimming deep in pleasurable sensations, my session lasted 53 minutes! It culminated the most delicious ‘energygasm’ where waves of orgasmic energy flowed through my whole body. I was tingling all over and totally charged up with cosmic energy.

If you would like to experience the aliveness that can come from making love to yourself, rather than getting yourself off with ‘hand relief’(Uuuuurgh – hate that expression!) – then here are a few suggestions for mindful self-pleasuring:
• Make the environment lovely for yourself – even simply lighting a candle can bring sacredness and specialness to the experience
• Set an alarm for a specific length of time and use this as your guide for exploration rather than the goal of climax
• Touch your whole body, not just your genitals
• Try out different pressure, strokes, rhythms and speeds – not just doing what you always do
• Pay exquisite attention to what’s going on inside your body, be with the sensations. Release any mental images or fantasies as you drop into your body
• Breathe deeply and fully to allow your body to open and expand into greater pleasure (Many people hold their breath when they get close to climax but if you keep breathing fully you will experience a deeper pleasure)
• Allow your body to move and undulate
• When the time is complete, if you wish to move towards climax (e.g. ejaculation) then go for it. Otherwise you can integrate the energy by breathing it up the body from genitals to the crown on the head with the inhale and down with the exhale

Enjoy!

 

 

Orgasmatronic!

Hey there lover,

I thought it was time I start sharing some of my life with you. Why keep it a secret?

If you have met me, you’ll know that sex is my passion. And so I put a lot of time and energy into not just doing it, but learning more about it.

That’s why I spent last weekend training in full body orgasm techniques with an amazing group of juicy people.

The technique involves awakening sexual energy in the body. Most people think all our sexual energy is in our nether regions – but actually our sexual energy flows all through us. When we are really alive to sexual energy it can feel like you’re making love to the whole world.

One absolutely amazing thing I’d love to share with you is that the primary area of sexual activation for a woman is…. her throat!

Yes, a man will be more successful making love to a woman if he gives a lot of attention to her throat and neck area (thinking nibbling kisses). Only when she is fully aroused should you make your way down to her pussy. Then it will be electric!

Unsurprisingly for men the primary activation area is the groin – not just your cock but all the area around it. However, there were some other very interesting points to get a man going.

While practising with one other participant I discovered a delicious little spot behind the knee. He was so turned on he said it felt like I was stroking his cock!

So 30 people naked in a room for 2 days stroking one another to full body orgasmic bliss. Can you imagine it?

But it wasn’t all learning, after the workshop I went to a yummy hot tub party with some tantric friends. It was so much fun to play in the warm water while feeling the cold night air around us. Sipping champagne under the stars.

As more and more people got into the tub (we got 12 at one point!) it became practically impossible to work out which body part was whose and where it was going…

Legs, arms, pussies, hands, mouths and cocks rubbed against bodies in a delicious tangle of bodies…. sighs and groans of pleasure filled garden… waves of orgasmic energy washed over us… the perfect climax to a perfect day… xxx